Is Homosexuality Really The Issue?

I've read a lot of posts about a duck hunter's stance on homosexuality, and how "this person" thinks he is right and "that person" thinks he is wrong, or worse, a bigot. It's frustrating that too often we all just pick a team and close our ears to the real debate. So far I haven't heard or read anyone actually addressing the point of what the Bible is getting at in the passages that are often quoted regarding homosexuality. Usually these passages are presented in a superficial and legalistic "my way or the highway" approach about "the Bible's rule against homosexuality" that has zero agape love attached to it, which is totally contrary to the intent of the scriptures. First of all, if you don't believe the Bible is the infallible word of God, fine, that is between you and God, but at least be aware that the underlying message is much more important than the rightness or wrongness of homosexuality. The elephant in the room is a word called "idolatry". What is that? Idolatry is when anything (a person, a philosophy, a material possession, a goal, a lifestyle, you name it) other than God is elevated to a place in our lives that was designed to only be occupied by Him, and that thing begins to influence our choices and perspective. If you love Chinese food so much that at some point it slowly fades into something you crave and think about day and night, eventually you can buy into the lie that nothing else can make you feel as good as Chinese food makes you feel. According to the Bible, at some point in that process you have elevated Chinese food to a place that seems right to you, but is not a healthy position for any food to hold in your life. When we "lust" for anything, by default we are consumed by it, we tend to seek ways to justify it and we hunger for it because it makes us feel good physically, emotionally, intellectually, or even spiritually. Simply put, we love it with all of our heart, soul, mind, and strength and at some point it can subtly become our god. The Bible says that is unhealthy and bad for us. Why? Because it replaces what our true creator has for us with what we think is better. Jesus said the greatest commandment is to love God with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength, not Chinese food, or wealth, or status, or sex, or a million other things. Hypothetically speaking, if we really loved God the way Jesus describes wouldn't we be willing to "deny ourself and take up our cross daily"? Wouldn't our love for God supersede our love for _______? Most of us want to be affirmed that we are right about our choices in life, so when someone else points out that the Bible indicates that what we want does not line up with what God wants for us, it is normal to not like it. In reality we can do one of two things. We can "humble ourselves and pray and seek God's face and turn from our wicked ways", whatever they may be, or we can become our own god and make our own rules. Some may say, "But Brad, I don't believe in your God, Im really smart and know the Bible inside and out. There are some good things in there, but I think it is mostly a metaphor or a bunch of crap". I would say, there are also world renown scholars who have also reached an equal and opposite conclusion… time and time again. Which one of you is right? I believe the Bible is a guide, a tapestry of truth woven through centuries of divinely appointed and inspired prophets, priests, kings, and sinners. All of it points to an eternal truth far more significant than the temporary satisfaction of any human relationship or sexual encounter. This truth offers a hope that is more filling than any Chinese buffet. It offers hope higher than any corporate ladder can reach. This hope is based on the fact that we simply cannot be good enough to achieve the level of holiness it takes to know God, there are simply too many "lusts of the flesh" standing in the way. We can't love deep enough, serve long enough, or smile big enough, though God's gift of grace will make those who receive it want to strive for those things. All we can do is accept the fact that the great I AM, was and is the only way, the only truth, the only life. He alone overcame the permanent divide that sin created by bearing the burden Himself, on a cross. He became flesh and dwelt among us and lived a perfect and sinless life, yet died bearing the guilt of a rapist, a murderer, a liar, a thief, an adulterer, a fornicator, a pedophile, a drunk, a crackhead, a dead-beat dad, a gossip, a glutton, a prostitute, a porn addict, a narcissistic jerk, and anything else you and I wish we could hide in the darkest creases of our hearts and minds. It was His plan all along. He is the only one who can solve the problem of sin and He is the only one who can get the credit for solving it. So regardless of what the idol is, you fill in the blank, if we as a society are going to debate whether or not "it" is right or wrong according to the Bible, let's at least agree on what the REAL debate is. It is a battle of  "what I want" vs "what God wants for me". Is homosexuality right or wrong? Who cares? Who is your God? Answer that and the question of who you should sleep with will answer itself.